Most parents that yell at their children were also raised this way, and they don’t realize that yelling is verbal abuse and can have serious consequences.
There is no physical evidence when you yell. No one can see the scars; nevertheless, parents who yell at their children can create deep-seated insecurities as well as anxiety and depression in their children.
All of us have at some point yelled at our children. An occasional loss of control is part of being a parent.
However, children that are raised in homes where yelling is the daily form of communication can have serious emotional problems later in life.
Fear and respect are two different things. And children raised by parents who yell are always fearful of provoking their parent. The volume of a parent’s voice, the look in their eyes as well as the words being said can scar young children.
Studies have shown that being frequently yelled at changes a child’s brain and body, and increases the stress hormones in the blood stream.
It is important that parents make their children feel safe, especially when they are disciplining them.
If you want your child’s behavior to improve. Stop yelling.
Children respond to positive redirection and are more likely to continue that behavior if they feel loved and safe.
Discipline does not have to hurt physical or emotionally in order for it to be effective. You can be firm, and still be loving and kind.
If you yell, your child will eventually yell at you, and at his siblings. The anger you show your child will more than likely be returned to you in full force, during the teen years.
The best way to discipline your children is to make sure that their emotional needs are met.
Your goal is to raise a calm, confident child that can face life with a positive attitude.
If you want to raise a well-behaved child. Be a well-behaved adult.
Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily, Instagram mlsalcinespoweroffamily or contact her on her blog FamilyLifeandFindingHappy.com.