Advice: The best way to enjoy family during the holidays

The holidays are fun but can be stressful when you have a group of people with different personalities.

The best way to get through family gatherings without going crazy is to accept people for who they are. It’s not worth trying to understand them.

People who get along with others, who are levelheaded, compassionate, forgive easily and assume responsibility for their actions have what psychologists call emotional intelligence. These people tend to manage their emotions and understand the emotions of others. They also tend to have fewer mental issues and excel in other aspects of their lives, such as at their job and in relationships.

These individuals understand that their happiness does not depend on others. They don’t need others to reassure them in order to build up their confidence.

What a family member thinks of you or believes you should be doing does not reflect who you are. You are in charge of your life and peace of mind. Don’t allow anyone to take that power from you.

Learn to stay out of family drama. Don’t gossip and skip the shaming of other family members. Remember, everyone makes mistakes.
When a family member puts someone down, let him or her know you are not comfortable with the conversation.

You might have the same bloodline as your relatives, but as we all know family members can be very different from each other.

Different generations come with their set of rules, customs and beliefs. Don’t argue with your 85-year-old grandmother who is telling you that at your age she was married with five kids. Just smile and give her a hug.

The holidays are about overlooking the little things and focusing on the big picture.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer and certified parent coach with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily and on Instagram @mlsalcines. You can also contact her on her blog, FamilyLifeandFind