Advice: Create friendships that matter


As we get older, we meet and connect with people that we eventually love and care for, creating a family bond through love, respect and mutual experiences. Many call this group of people their tribe.

Your tribe is those who rally around you when you need them, who will show up before you have to chance to ask.

These friends have your back. They know your strengths and weaknesses, and they accept you as you are.

Life is filled with so much negativity and drama. When you have friends you can count on, you have to treasure and nurture those friendships.

It’s during difficult moments that you are reminded of the important things in life.

I have a tribe of very strong women. Through the happiest and saddest moments of my life, I have had these women by my side. When we are together, we spend most of our time laughing.

And whenever something happens to one of us, we are all impacted by it. We have always journeyed together through life’s ups and downs.

In “Small Graces,” author Kent Nerburn said, “We live in fear of being judged by others, while empty space between us is waiting to be filled by a simple gesture of honest caring.”

Sometimes we don’t reach out to others for fear of being rejected and we end up missing out on getting to know people.

Life is just too difficult to get through alone. But to have a tribe, you have to approach it with heart.

You have to be honest, sincere and care for others or you aren’t fulfilling your responsibility to the tribe.

In this superficial world we live in, sincere friends are a gift. I read somewhere that the average person spends 2 1/2 hours a day on social media.

That is a lot of time spent connecting with people you may not be that close to.

Life means more when it is spent with those who matter.

Live in the present. Be appreciative of the kindness your friends show you, and most of all value the friendships in your life.

Having friends you can count on is a blessing.

Maria Luisa Salcines is a freelance writer, and certified parent educator with The International Network for Children and Families in Redirecting Children’s Behavior and Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom. Follow her on Twitter @PowerOfFamily or on Instagram at mlsalcines. You can also contact her on her blog